Are you in emotional turmoil because of situations that ended badly?
Do you find yourself feeling anxious thinking about your future? Are you regretting the past and worrying about tomorrow? This blog shares a perspective that the thoughts in your mind, especially those generating negative feelings, are just dreams. What does it mean for them to be dreams? Read more to find out.
In Tiger Singleton’s Cascais Meditation and Spiritual Musing’s episode on Healing the Wound of Inadequacy, the nature of dreams in a spiritual context is the mind being encapsulated by thoughts. It is believing in impossible things and focusing on what’s not there. When we are left to our own thoughts, many generate unpleasant feelings and we tend to dwell in them when in fact, they are just dreams. Dreams, in a way, where these thoughts do not affect our waking self. They are simply floating in our minds, making us feel negative or positive emotions when in reality, our present self is unchanged.
Tiger Singleton says,
“It’s important to recognize the capacity of your mind to be lost in its content. Lost in such a way that you could be sitting in this moment and you're captured by a thought pattern. Something believes in that thought pattern as if it's actually happening as if it's real. So real in fact, that you experience internal disturbances. Yet upon closer examination, that's not even happening. Upon closer examination to question what's actually real, what's actually true, you're pointed to come back to this moment,” (TS, 2019).
Permitting our thoughts to go on repeat, convinces us that they are real as well as the emotional effects they create. For example, when we continuously think our recent breakup was our fault, we also continuously feel guilty and depressed. When we worry so much about the future, we also become anxious and fearful. However, the experiences we remember and the concerns we have are actually not happening at the present. They are simply similar to dreams. They are intangible and unreal.
In the dream state, where our minds play thoughts of hurtful experiences and future concerns, we believe that the reason for this is we are inadequate. Tiger Singleton expounds on it saying,
“It points back to a belief I have, that what I am is not enough, I fear not being enough or I thought I wasn't enough. Any anxiety, any disturbance in your being, if you investigate it, you can see that it's rooted in an idea that you're not enough -almost as if you're trying to do something, but you just can't do it. You're afraid that you won't be able to do it. There's this constant anxiety within that's afraid to be alive because you know you don't really know what you're doing. You know you really don't know how to get what you want. You want someone to love you, but you don't know if you can be what they want. You want a future prize, but you really don't know if you can do what's necessary,” (2019).
Believing ourselves as inadequate leads us to ideas that we think will make us enough.
So, we brace ourselves in attaining this and that, fulfilling one thing after another while still feeling inadequate. We set our minds to the idea that we can only attain peace-of-mind once we gain our wants.
However, belief in inadequacy and its result of wanting are just an illusion, a dream. Holding on to the illusion we become fearful for not having what we think is necessary in our lives. It convinces us to gain control of ourselves and others. This, as Tiger Singleton puts, it is “the root of inadequacy. When you try and do something that's not for you to do, you will feel inadequacy,” (2019).
So, a shifting of perspective will free us from the feelings of not being enough and the fears and anxieties that go along with it. We have to let go of the dream to see what’s real. Healing takes place when we recognize and accept reality. We don’t try anymore but become natural with our actions.
Tiger Singleton encourages us by saying,
“When I say you're natural-ness, what I mean is that it's not something that you try to do. It's automatic. You don't try to be loving, you don't try to be kind. You don't try to be joyful. You don't try to be happy. There's no trying at all. It's automatic. The ability to discern between what is dream and what is real is your greatest skillset,” (TS, 2019).
The acceptance of truth leads us to a calm state where there is nothing to worry about. We just allow the flow of life. When we let go of control over things, we see life in a happier light. We appreciate the present and only see that, not the past nor the future. So, free yourself and start believing you are enough. Being you is already a gift.